Break-ups and Mental Health

Soulmates can connect and read each other like an open book or a movie; they can always connect on a different level and suddenly disappear without knowing what you did wrong. Relationships are not always colorful and butterflies; there are good and bad days. Sometimes it is necessary to break things off with someone you’re not official with or when things do not work out. Whether or not both of you have gone on a few dates, have gone out a few times, or been together for some period, sparks won’t be there all the time. It can be tough to break up with someone, especially if you have been used to them for some time. Being used to this person and spending more time with them can be amazing and wonderful, but what if you are either besieged or the person stops talking to you? Or what if this type of feeling hurts so much that you do not know how to move on?

Here are some three ways to handle break-ups and rejection:

Do not misinterpret rejection or break-ups.

Most people tend to interpret rejection and break-ups incorrectly. They tend to do this by connecting their self-worth in the relationship. They sometimes ask themselves, “Did the person ever love me?” “Was I not good enough for him/her to stay?” or “Is there something about me that pissed or turned the person off?” All these questions make one feel worse and look down upon themselves. Because of this feeling, some people tend to shut down doors. They are likely to prevent that one amazing person from coming in because they got hurt by another person’s betrayal or sudden disappearance. Therefore, to not feel this way, you need to take a few moments to do some self-checks on what led up to the disappearing act or betrayal. After doing all these checks and realizing that none of it is your fault, do not make mental judgements that could disrupt your self-esteem or prevent others from coming into your life.

Rejection can benefit you.

Rejection or break-ups can benefit you. Most people will disagree from this point because they think rejection or break-ups can lead to sadness, depression, or anxiety since your world was built around that person over time. However, break-ups and rejection can build resilience and help you grow as an individual. Sitting down to self-check or point out your mistakes or reasons why the person left or rejected you can allow you use them in future relationships with others. It is always beneficial to use our past mistakes to prevent future setbacks. It can also make you focus and spend more time with yourself. Most people do not devote more time to themselves during romantic relationships or focus on themselves because they center and focus all their energy on making their partner happy. Disconnect from the social media world or anything that will let you have the mindset of “I am staying behind in life in terms of relationships.”

You can grow in breakups or rejection.

It is possible to build inner confidence after a sudden break-up or rejection. You can do this through meditation, positive self-affirmations, and outer confidence by continuously creating and developing skills to overcome that uneasy feeling after the break-up or rejection. You can try and live with so much energy by profoundly believing in the impact you brought on the other person’s life and having zero doubts about their execution. You must believe in yourself and surround yourself with people who can push you or those who have been in similar situations and have similar aspirations to grow into a new person from a sudden rejection or break-up.  You can also surround yourself with people who bring out positive energy, not people who try to push you down or those who are always like, “I told you this will happen.” Avoid or reduce situations or things that remind you of the past relationship, as this can disrupt your mood. Furthermore, consume expert content or advice, face your fears, and develop a sense of gratitude.